Showing posts with label apologies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label apologies. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Even Punk Is Fallible: A Commentary on Language

Punk's comments aren't the issue as much as people defending them are
Photo Credit: WWE.com
For those who didn't catch wind of it yesterday, CM Punk caught flak for being videotaped calling hecklers in the front row of an Australian house show "homos". This was the third time in calendar year 2011 that someone has used homophobic language in the company to great fanfare, with Punk joining John Cena and Michael Cole as the other two. It was a dumb thing of him to do, and he realized it, as he took to Twitter to apologize yesterday. To me, all is good on that front, especially considering the circumstances.

For one, apparently Punk was being heckled with similar terms by the crowd. We also all also know he's not a homophobe given that he posted four tweets in support of New York State approving same-sex marriages the night it happened. It's clear he feels strongly about equal rights for everyone, and it makes sense that people using those slurs would get under his skin to the point where he'd flip out. People have bad moments, they make mistakes. Nothing really excuses the comment from Punk, but at the same time, he deserves forgiveness if he owned up to his mistake, just in the same way that Randy Orton deserved forgiveness for his transgressions against Kelly Kelly when he apologized.

If that were it, then I wouldn't be writing this blog post. However, there's this insidious undercurrent of people who are bemoaning the fact that this was even picked up by TMZ and made a big deal of. He's just being a heel, they say. Well, here's my problem with that line of defense... Punk can be a heel in several different ways other than calling someone a homo.

It's 2011. We're supposed to be more enlightened as a society to the point where we don't discriminate based on race, religion, ethnicity or sexual orientation. The fact that we're still embroiled in a civil rights debate concerning the rights of homosexuals to get married speaks to how far we still have to go, but the awareness is there. That's why using homophobic slurs, even when the intent is implied to be something different, is wrong. Certain people took to Twitter yesterday to defend what Punk was saying because the word "homo" had different societal meaning apparently. Well, if that's the case, and if Punk meant to call the guys in the front row to be something other than gay, then there are a ton of other words that imply idiot, loser etc. He could have called them assholes, motherfuckers, shitheads, fucksticks, assweasels, bottomfeeders, mongoloids, sub-mongoloids, assbastards, smegma shovelers or any other portmanteau of the seven dirty words, animals or other words that don't have the connotation that gay is bad.

That's why what Punk said was so bad, not that we can't handle this kind of talk anymore, not because the art of the heel is being dominated by political correctness, not because of straight people white knighting gays because we feel oversensitive. It's because homosexuals don't have the same rights as heterosexuals do, and thus words hurt more than if it were two guys in an accepted class trading barbs with each other. PC isn't here to make sure that we all make nice with each other; it's something that is reluctantly necessary to make sure that we don't start ripping into each other for our inherent differences until everyone is equal. That's when slurs become jokes. And furthermore, I'd say that the people who can't handle this kind of attention aren't those who are offended by the speech, but those who suddenly can't belittle an entire group of people with impunity. Those are the people I don't really have sympathy for here.

I get that we all have First Amendment rights. As someone who holds freedom of speech as the most important right we have as men and women though, that right works for everyone. Just as Punk has the right to say dumb shit without the government cracking down on him, people have the right to express their displeasure with the choice of language he's using. This isn't a free speech issue in the least. It's an issue between one group of people and another who have differing viewpoints. That's what society is built upon, people airing grievances and settling them like human beings through public channels, not going to the authorities to prosecute or persecute someone for having an unfavorable opinion, whichever one that may be.

That's what's happening here. It's discourse, although with Punk coming out and admitting he made a mistake, it's unnecessary. What Punk said wasn't the end of the world, but I can see how it'd be damaging to people who are trying so hard to lift the stigma of "gay = BAD" from society. I don't think it's too much to ask that maybe we cool it on using those kinds of words as insults until everyone is on an equal footing in the eyes of the law. When that happens, then yeah, rip into each other, but we're still a long way away from that point.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Follow-up: Orton Takes to Twitter with His Apology to K2

Photo Credit: WWE.com
Randy Orton, feeling the fire from his asshole comments regarding Kelly Kelly's sex life, took to Twitter to apologize in a series of five Tweets:
Yesterday I put my foot in my mouth and I need to try my best to make it right. I owe Kelly K an apology. The fact that she has dated a few guys I work with doesn't make her a bad person, and is also none of my or anyone elses buisness [sic]. Yesterday I got caught up in a live radio interview and brought Kelly's personal life into it. It was completely uncalled for. Kelly I hope one day you can forgive me. I do however understand if that doesn't happen. Please everyone trash me all you want, but please drop this topic out of respect for Barb.
While the message from yesterday's post about the double standard needing to be dropped still stands, I commend Orton for apologizing in a quick manner. He knew he fucked up, didn't try to backtrack and manned up for what he said. I can dig that a lot, especially in this day and age of backtracking, denials and my personal favorite, apologizing to the audience that they got offended. Orton's good with me now, but then again, I'm not the guy he needs to worry about.

Remember you can contact TH and ask him questions about wrestling, life or anything else. Please refer to this post for contact information. He always takes questions!